30 Things Everyone Should Stop Doing To Themselves
“When you stop chasing the wrong things, you give the right things the chance to catch you.”
Maria Robinson, renowned author said, “ Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” There is simply nothing that is closer to the truth. However, you have to stop doing the things that are holding you back before you can ever begin the process of transformation.
Consider the following ideas to help get you started on your transformation.
Remove yourself from the wrong people.
Today is the day to stop hanging around the people who do nothing but suck happiness out of your life. Life is simply too short for that. Keep in mind that if a person wants you in their life, they will make room for you. If someone is constantly overlooking your worth, stop trying to make them see it. Anyone will stand beside you when time are good, but only your true friends will still be there when things are at there worst.
Stop avoiding your problems.
Although it will not be easy, you have to face them head on and deal with them. There is not a single person that can handle every curve ball thrown at them. It is impossible to immediately solve problems. People are made to get hurt, upset, fall, and stumble. This is the purpose behind life. If you learn to face problems, adapt as needed, solve them, and use them as learning experiences, you can become the person you have always wanted to be.
Don’t lie to yourself.
Try as you might, you cannot lie to yourself. Your live will improve as you begin to take chances. The first step toward doing this is also the most difficult, be honest with yourself.
Stop putting your needs last.- It is possible to love someone so much that you forget you are special too. Don’t lose yourself to love someone else. Yes, you can help others, but you have to help yourself as well. Now is the perfect time to follow your passions and do something that matters to you, even if it doesn’t to anyone else.
Stop pretending to be someone you aren’t.
There is no doubt that it is difficult living in a world where everyone is constantly trying to make you into someone you are not. There is always going to be someone smarter, someone younger, someone richer. You are never going to be that person. Don’t attempt to make yourself into that person so that others will like you. By being yourself, you will attract the right people to love the real you.
Don’t be afraid to make a mistake.
Doing something, even when it is done wrong, is ten times more productive than never trying it. Every one success has multiple failures behind it. Every failure leads you toward success. In the end, you will regret the things you never tried far more than the things you did and failed at.
Stop holding on to the past.
You will never be able to move on in your life if you are constantly rehashing what has happened in the past.
Quit making yourself feel bad for past mistakes.
Mistakes help us grow. You may do the wrong thing, cry about something you shouldn’t, or love the wrong person, but this is necessary to grow. Mistakes give you insight into finding the right person. Everyone makes mistakes, struggles, and has regrets. However, your mistakes do not define you. You now have the power to shape your day and future. Everything you have been through in life is preparing you for something that has yet to come.
Don’t try to buy happiness.
Quite often the things we want are expensive. However, the things we really desire are free. Laughter, love, and working toward your passions are free.
Don’t only look to others for happiness.
If you aren’t happy with yourself, you can never be truly happy in a long-term relationship with someone else. Before you can ever share your life with someone else, you must have create stability first.
Stop being idle.
If you think too much, you will eventually create a problem that was never there. Evaluate situations and take decisive action. It is impossible to change things that you will not confront. To make progress, you have to take a risk.
Stop telling yourself that you aren’t ready.
Almost every opportunity requires us to step outside of our comfort zone. You will never find a person that is 100% ready whenever an opportunity presents itself. It takes time to grow comfortable in a situation.
Don’t become involved in a relationship for the wrong reasons.
Whether you believe it or not, it is better to be alone than be involved with the wrong person. Do not rush things! If something is meant to happen, it will, but only at the right time with the right person for the right reason. Don’t fall in love because you are lonely. Fall in love because you are ready.
Stop putting off new relationships because others failed.
In life, there is a reason behind every person you meet. Some will teach you, some will test you, and some will use you, but some will bring out the best in you.
Don’t compete against everyone else.
Don’t constantly look at what others are doing better than you. Concentrate on beating yourself. Success is simply a battle between YOU and YOURSELF, no one else.
Don’t be jealous of others.
This is easier said than done. Don’t count someone else’s blessings instead of your own. Ask yourself, “What is something I have that everyone else wants?”
Stop whining and feeling sorry for yourself.- Curve balls come at you for a reason- to shift the path you are following to the direction it is meant to be. There is a good chance you will not see or understand why when it happens. It may be tough, but look at past curve balls you have faced. Haven’t they eventually led to a better situation, state of mind, person, or place? Smile. Let others know that you are stronger today than you were yesterday.
Let go of grudges you are holding.
Living with hate in your heart will only end up hurting you and not others. However, forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay,” It’s saying, “I refuse to let what you did to me ruin my chance for happiness forever.” Forgiveness is key. Let go, find peace, and liberate yourself. Forgiveness isn’t just for others, it is for you too. You may need to forgive yourself, move on, and do things differently in the future.
Don’t let others bring you down to their level.
Don’t lower your standards to accommodate individuals who refuse to raise theirs.
Don’t waste time explaining yourself to others.
Your friends don’t require it and your enemies will never believe it. Do what you know is right in your heart.
Don’t do the same things over and over without taking a break.- Even when you don’t have time for it, take a deep breath. If you continue working without taking time for yourself, you’ll keep getting the same results. Sometimes you need to take a step back in order to see things more clearly.
Don’t overlook the beauty of small moments.
Stop to enjoy little things. If you don’t, you will likely look back one day and discover these were actually big things. In life, most of the small, nameless moments will be the ones that end up meaning the most to you.
Don’t try to make everything perfect.
In the real world, people who get things done are rewarded and not those that are perfectionists.
Don’t follow the path of least resistance.
Life will never be easy especially if you want to achieve something worthwhile. Do something extraordinary and stop taking the easy way out.
Don’t pretend everything is find if it isn’t.- Sometimes you have to fall apart. You don’t always have to be strong and you don’t constantly have to make others think you are. Don’t worry about what others think. Cry if you need to. It’s actually healthy for you. The sooner you let yourself cry, the sooner you will be able to smile again.
Don’t blame others for your problems.
You have to take responsibility for your life in order to fully achieve your dreams. If you place the blame for what you are going through on others, you deny responsibility. This gives others power over that aspect of your life.
Stop trying to be everything for everybody.
It is not possible and will only burn you out. However, making just one person smile can change the world. It may not be the whole world, but their world. Narrow your focus.
Don’t worry so much.
Worrying will take all the joy out of today and will not lessen the burdens you will feel tomorrow. One way to determine whether or not something is worth worrying about is by asking, “Will this matter in one year? Three years? Ten years?” If not ,stop worrying about it.
Don’t focus on what you are trying to prevent from happening.
Instead, focus on what you want to happen. Positive thinking is the key to success. If you wake up believing that something wonderful can happen today and you pay careful attention, you will frequently find that you are right.
Don’t be ungrateful.
Wake up everyday thankful for the life you have regardless of how good or bad it is. Somewhere there is someone fighting desperately for their life. Don’t think about what you are missing. Think about what you have that others are missing.